We’ve all had our fair share of new friends. Especially in our younger days when having friends was a total necessity in order to be relevant. The thing is, making friends when you’re an adult can be tough.
As for myself, I never needed a lot of friends. Don’t get me wrong, I’d absolutely LOVE to have a huge group of likeminded girls to hang out with. However, with more friends comes more D R A M A. And who needs any part of that when they’re settled down with a husband and a family.
Some friendships can be life changing. You’re a better person when they’re around. You can be yourself and not have to worry about filtering what to say or how to act. When you find yourself in that great of a friendship I believe you find yourself in a better state of mind. When you have someone so close to you that soaks up all of life’s stress you’ll sleep better. You’ll be better off knowing that they will always be behind you, ready to catch you when you fall.
Friendships with history are harder. Although, they are 100% worth the effort. You’ve been through so much together and you feel entitled to their presence. Its a common feeling of “I was there first” syndrome and you need to let that go.
Marriage vs. Friendships Not even possible. I don’t care how great your marriage is you absolutely NEED a friend to lean on. Friends understand us differently than an intimate partner does. Girl friends understand how much it sucks to have a period, bloating, bad hair days, and that stupid pimple that you thought was gone but actually resurfaced last night!! Your man needs his boys to relate to as well. Time apart will work wonders for each other, not just for your marriage, but for yourself as a person.
New friends are confusing. That is, if you make it confusing. Don’t second guess why someone wants to hang out with you. Just do it. Every once and a while you meet some one and you totally click, its as if you’ve known this person forever. I love having that moment when just the two of you are talking and every other sentence is “YEAH, ME TOO!”. On the other end of the spectrum you may feel forced, its not meant to be. Go with your gut and move on.
Threes company. Three is a good number to me! Not for kids, I want four, but I digress.. Three girl friends is heaven to me. Its totally unrealistic to expect your friend to have just one other friend, unless you’re in Elementary school. The Three Amigos, The Hanson Brothers, The Three Stooges, the number of bones in the human ear, three sheets to the wind, The Nina, the Pinta, and the Santa Maria, Three feet in a yard, and THE SANDERSON SISTERS for crying out load!! Do I need any more proof here?
Having friends makes you a friend. That’s an awesome relationship skill set to have. Part of the basic building blocks of a great marriage is being a friend. Picking them up when they are down and always being there to back them. No matter what.
Men kick friendship around like a football and it doesn’t even crack. Women treat it like glass and it falls to pieces. -Anne Lindbergh Truer than true. I believe friendships fall apart for a reason. Either to break up and move on, or to give yourself a dose of reality seeing just how important that girl was in your life. Just like in marriage, you cannot expect every day to be sunshine and rainbows. You have to endure the storm before you can fully enjoy the sunshine.
Inside jokes galore. I am a lover of inside jokes! That awesome moment when your friend yells “UNACCEPTABLE!!” and no one even gets it. (Thats an inside joke by the way.) Inside jokes are a way to totally annoy everyone else around you. I like to think they get annoyed simply because they weren’t involved in said joke.
Friends simply make life easier. There it is. 5 words to sum on my outlook on friends. Friends simply make life easier.. Say it with me, friends simply make life easier. Think about yourself as a human here, just a body walking around, your brain selected your people based on the vibes they give off. Your brain knows you better than you know yourself. It knows what you lack and what you need and seriously picked out some people to help you walk through life effortlessly.
Humans are friendly to strangers when most animals don’t even bother to encounter other animals. Am I blowing your mind yet?? We were born to make friends. Human friendships are based on genetic similarity. Your friends may be as similar to you about as much as your fourth cousins are. Friendship is a huge factor in the genetic evolution of the human species, which scientists say has accelerated in the past 300,ooo years!
Science is awesome.
Think about the people you surround yourself with and take a moment to sincerely thank them for the roles they play in your life.
What do you look for most in a friend?