How do you know exactly where your life will take you? We all like to plan it out, try to stay on track, but how many of us actually know where we’ll be 5 even 10 years down the road? Have I mentioned how stressful it is to try and steer your family in the right direction? My Husband and I always discuss this specific topic. Our children need the safest neighborhoods, and the best schools. We wont stop looking until we are 100% sure we have found it.
But there’s one problem. We are major free birds. We always wonder if life would be better somewhere else. Somewhere new. We’ve been yearning for a fresh start for months now.. This suburbia life is getting old. Stepping outside on to your “private” porch with nothing but the view of a fence. Look left, there’s a house not more than 5 feet away, look right, another house. It blows my mind how close builders can get these houses together, It’s a wonder why they didn’t just close the gaps in between them all and call them duplexes, but I digress…
10 years from now I want to be settled. Totally done with moving. I’ve been moving my entire life and, quite frankly, I don’t want that for my family.
Moving to a new place is tough, whether it be right down the road or across the country, you’ll still run into questions. Just a couple of hours ago my Husband and I were driving through our next potential neighborhood. Our lease will be up before we know it so we are starting early! Looking at new houses being framed I couldn’t help but wonder if we would be living here a year from now. Granted its not the 5 acre lot down a dead end dirt road, but they are great houses. Built by custom home builders, wood floors, granite counter tops, the whole 9 yards. Yet, I don’t really think that’s who we are. We’d be just fine in a double wide sitting on a good piece of land. Away from the hustle and bustle of the city, away from civilization.. but not too fat from Target. That’s non negotiable.
The problem with being ‘well off’ at our age is that we will always have to strive for more later on in our lives. It’s not about having the best things, the nice cars, or big houses, its more of knowing that we are capable of achieving more, because of how far we’ve already come. We are a power team and we know our jobs in our marriage and we work together. He works to bring in the money, I stay home with our boys so they know Momma was there.
We’ve been tossing around ideas for our future lately. A different area of Texas, or a different state. However, It all comes down to my Husbands job. Unless he switches fields, but who wants to do that when you’re getting to the top of that ladder? He works where the oil is, and if there isn’t any oil, well he wont be able to make a successful living. So we cross yet another area off our list. Going job to job was never in my Husbands nature, and I am so proud of him for that.
My point behind these ramblings is that you need to plan your life accordingly. When you have a family the whole world changes. You see places differently, and you want the absolute best for your kids. We are not pros at this, but I feel like we can help a lot of people just by sharing our stories and our ideas.
My Husband and I have very old souls. We think the world should be as it was in the old days. Think 1930 to 1955 or so. When America was truly a genuine place. You didn’t need to lock your doors, you knew your neighbors and you respected everyone you came across. Today is scary. I worry about the kind of world my sons will grow up in every single day. However, I know I cant protect them from it forever. I can’t stress over things that I cannot change, nor can I change the world. But I can change what part of the world my sons grow up in.
Nevertheless, we are looking ahead with confidence. Wherever we end up I’m sure it will be nothing short of perfect. As long as we keep on the same track we are going now, we’ll be golden. I urge you to have this talk with your significant other. Communication is key. You’ll probably be surprised where it leads you!
“Keep dreaming big. You have a great glorious future.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita,
Have a great night friends!