Boys are a whole new ball game. Granted, I haven’t been blessed with a little girl yet, fingers crossed for sometime in the near future, but I can only imagine the differences these genders hold during their childhood. Raising boys isn’t for the faint of heart, you can raise them to be as prim and proper as you’d like but just remember that boy is a boy, eventually the part in his brain that wants to just sit in the mud and play will shine through. Let it.
Lets just dive on in, shall we? Like men, boys too may become excited, for lack of a better word. I am talking about children here. I call this phenomenon the ‘bullet’. I can’t even begin to tell you how awkward it is to change an infants diaper first thing in the morning and have to avoid the obvious.. If you haven’t caught on yet, I’m sorry. When they reach the toddler age just ignore the obvious and try your hardest not to laugh when he catches on to the way his body responds to things, you’ll only make him afraid of it. And who wants to deal with that when its time to potty train. (Keep reading and I’ll get into that whole mess too.)
Now that that’s over lets get serious here for a moment. I’ve heard it a million times. “Boys don’t cry.”. I absolutely disagree with this. Here’s my take on it. Boys are in fact tough, let them decide how tough they think they can be. No little boy wants to be scorned for shedding a simple tear. Let them express their emotions. Let them know it is 100% human to have these emotions. I don’t believe in raising boys to be stone cold and totally unplugged from their feelings. Don’t get me wrong though, I don’t believe in a flat out cry-about-everything child either. There is a happy medium somewhere in between there, find it. Your future daughter in law will thank you.
Boys are competitive. I’ll go ahead and blame that one on their cavemen ancestors. Little boys are wired to win, in literally anything. Are you heading to the bathroom? Better make it a race to the toilet. Is it time for dinner? Better hurry up and eat so I can leave the table first. Little Timmy next door can throw a ball 2 houses down? Better throw it 3. Get used to it. That is one thing that will never change. They are hardwired to win and that’s totally okay. Prepare them for the losses though. Keep them positive. Make sure they know to get right back up and try again.
Potty training will not be easy. I say this, but it took my oldest 3 days to get it down. However, those 3 days may have been the hardest days of my adult life. Here’s a quick tip, don’t do fancy charts, and don’t bribe them with treats or pull ups, just get right down to business. Take away the diaper and don’t be afraid to get pee everywhere, its bound to happen. Once they learn to relieve themselves properly there’s a new conflict.. You’ll have to teach that boy how to pee like a boy when you’re a girl. Enter, Daddy!
Boys need role models and mentors. They crave a male to look up to in their lives. There is no greater bond other than that of a father and his son. Both of my sons admire their Daddy, and I don’t blame them, he’s a remarkable man. Wyatt looks at him like he hung the moon.. He’s even caught on to how my Husband compliments me, I do not go a day where they haven’t told me I look pretty and that they love me. It’s the best feeling in the world.
Above all else, your little boy will be attached to you at the hip. You are his first love and you show him what qualities to look for in people. He will be a complete and total Mama’s boy, at least until Jr. High , right? Let him cuddle with you, let him give you sweaty hugs and chocolate kisses. He’s only little for so long.